A Call To The Remnant

Eph 5:22  Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

This might be one of the most controversial scriptures in the NT in our day. We are at least three generations into feminism and that very feminism has permeated its way through all of society. This is usually where we flip over to “yes but the men.” Lets not do that today, it has been preached ad nauseam. So Godly wife, do you submit and honor and reverence your husband? Could they put that on your gravestone? How are are to submit to the Lord? In everything, as they old song goes “I surrender all.” Now I hear the multiple arguments rising “but my husband doesnt …….” fill in the blank. If your husband does not love you as he aught (oftentimes subjective, not talking about abuse here) does that mean you can abdicate your role as a wife? If we flip the argument around and the wife is not Godly in the husbands opinion, does that mean a husband has no responsibility to love his wife even as Christ loves the Church?

Eph 5 goes on to state categorically, and all the many abusive husbands and wives in the past cannot change this truth, that within a genuine Christian marriage the husband is the head. This is what the world calls Patriarchy. This is what the world has rejected and has assaulted from every conceivable angle. This is the plan of God, and man, or woman cannot change it. Now that this has been stated, how do husbands or wives walk out their walk within less than perfect marriages? ( which I am assuming is most) What is always the final say, to either the man or the woman? The Word of God. That is our high measuring bar. How do we live up to that? Looking unto Jesus the author and the finisher of our faith. What is His will for us? What does the Holy Spirit prompt us to do and say, and by the same token what not to do and what not to say? Shall He not lead and guide us in all things even though they be less than perfect?

Now this is not an academic issue for me. I was saved 10 years after I was married and my wife is not saved. So, for over 30 years I have lived with a woman who certainly does not go for “thus sayeth the Lord.” Can I now abdicate my role as a husband and father because my wife is not saved? The standard remains the exact same for me. I have been called to love my wife as the Lord loves the Church and I have also been called to be the head of the house, I have not abdicated either role nor would I. Now, as an unsaved wife she could have chosen not to stay with me.

1Co 7:15  But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

We have been called to peace. I have peace in my house but if my wife had been a constant undermining influence, if she rejected my position within the household, is she tore me down at every turn and hated my Christianity and began to ruin our children (a house divided) then she would not have been a wife who was choosing to stay.

1Co 7:13  And the woman which has an husband that does not believe, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

Brothers and sisters we are called to peace. My situation is actually less complicated than many I have encountered where the spouse confesses to be a Christian but is clearly not. Now that is complicated and God bless every saint who finds themselves in that situation. Yet here is the standard. We are called to peace. Does your house have peace? Or is it in constant turmoil and Christ is being perpetually undermined day after day? We have not been called to this. I am not saying we cannot be specifically called to this, God knows. He does the calling and sometimes spouses are called to stay in situations where all others would say get out. Only God can make this call. I grew up in a household just like this and in the end my earthly father was saved. God must be our guide and the Word must be a lamp unto our feet. Let peace reign in your house.